The brides and the grooms dream of a fantastic wedding day which will eternally remain encased in their minds and also in the hearts of those who will attend the grand occasion. The Bengali weddings are fun-filled, elaborate and colorful The Bengalis’ love for their culture is well-known and Bengali weddings bear the proof of it. The Bengali marriage consists of a number of elaborate rituals that are not only enjoyable but are believed to be highly significant for a successful conjugal life. The typing of the nuptial knot in a Bengali marriage ceremony is accompanied by the blowing of the conch shell and ululation. The tune of shehnai played by live musicians or emanated from the music system adds a special mood to the wedding venue.
The marriage rituals in Bengali custom are categorized into three parts. They are pre-marriage rituals, marriage rituals and post marriage rituals.
Ashirbad: On the auspicious wedding day, the elders, specifically the parents of the groom, visit the bride’s place and vice-versa. Usually, husked rice and trefoil are sprinkled on the bride’s head and bless the groom and the bride.
Holud Kota: In this ceremony, a group consisting of 5 to 7 married women make a turmeric paste and bathe the bride with it. This brightens up the complexion of the bride and adds an extra glow to her countenance.
Dodhi Mongol:On the day of marriage, seven married women adorn the bride with white and red bangles called sakha and paula and make her eat a meal of curd and puffed rice.
Bor Boron: When the groom reaches the wedding spot, the bride’s mother accompanied by some other women come out to welcome him. The groom with blessed with husked rice and trefoil and served sweets and water.
Saat Paak: The bride is usually seated on a flat wooden stool and a few people lifted her and take round the groom in seven circles. This ritual has a great significance in Bengali marriage. It signifies that the bride and the groom are winded up securely to one another.
Mala Badal and Subho Dristi: In this ritual, the bride and the groom exchange garlands of sweet smelling flowers three times. This signifies that they accept each other as life partner.
After the garlanding part is over, the bride and the groom are made to look at each other.
Sampradan: In this ritual, the father or some other elderly person from the bride’s side hands her over to the groom.
Yagna: The bride and groom chant hymns by sitting in front of the holy Yagna fire. The fire god is made the witness of the auspicious wedding.
Sindoor Daan:The groom puts sindoor on the hair-parting of the bride.
Bidaay is one of the major post-wedding rituals In Bengal. In a mixed moment of happiness and sorrow, the parents of the bride bids adie to their daughter and bless her to begin a new life. On the occasion of Boubhat, the bride cooks and serves food to all the members of her new family. At the end of the day, the couple is left together to enjoy conjugal bliss.
Weddings are big occasions that have inexplicable significance in the lives of people tying the knot. Subh Muhurat, a Bengali wedding planner takes the responsibility of organizing the wedding events to the T to make them glamorous and memorable.